Am I being wrong?

 

The victim becomes the villain.

Do you ever feel confused and exhausted and can't figure out what's happening in your life with others?  Does it feel like the other person seems perfectly fine but the problem is you yourself? Are you the problem or the person making you feel like you are the problem? What was I telling you? That victim becomes a villain. Yeah, that's right, the victim becomes the villain in these types of cases. 

What's the first thing that comes to mind when you hear narcissism? Do you know what it means? Let's know about narcissism.

Introduction to narcissism

A mental health issue known as a narcissistic personality disorder(NPD) or narcissism causes individuals to have an excessive sense of their significance. While some level of self-esteem is healthy and necessary for a happy life, people with narcissistic tendencies take it to an extreme level, leading to negative consequences for themselves and those around them.

Narcissism consists of selfishness, arrogant thinking and behavior, a lack of empathy and consideration for people, and an excessive need for admiration. This affects every sector of a narcissist's life: from work to family, friendships, and love life. 

Even when their actions are causing them problems, people with narcissistic personality disorder are very resistant to modifying their behavior. Narcissists have difficulty accepting criticism or taking responsibility for their actions. They tend to turn the blame on others. What's more, they are extremely sensitive and react badly to even the slightest criticisms and disagreements which they view as personal attacks.

Narcissism is assumed to be a result of a confluence of genetic, environmental, and societal variables, while there is no single, clearly defined cause. Studies have identified a connection between narcissism and high levels of parental indulgence and praise and a possible association between it and early trauma or abuse. (source)

Life with a narcissist

Gaslighting, Lying, Cheating, Manipulating. 

• Will they ever change?

• What will it take to get through to them?

They apologized, but will this time be different...or will they just get better at hiding what they are up to?

As a narcissistic life partner, a person has to face the worst-case scenario.

Example:

By gaslighting their partner

Narcissists frequently "gaslight" their partners, which is the act of discrediting another person's experience to cast doubt on the veracity of it. Narcissists lie to others to protect their fragile self-esteem from falling apart if their flaws or errors are noticed. When these errors cannot be covered up, narcissists will blatantly alter the story to reflect a more positive level for themselves.

By manipulating their partner

FOG is an acronym that stands for "Fear, Obligation, and Guilt." These three emotions are often at the core of manipulation, and this is how narcissists control their targets. (OUT of the FOG, Dana Morningstar)

Narcissists use challenging feelings like shock, amazement, and guilt to keep their victims under control. They play hot and cold games.

By Love Bombing their partner

To create an appearance of connection and trust so their partner would stay in the relationship, narcissists engage in love bombing. But if the partner notices something wrong they would feel like they are the wrong ones here because the narcissist already puts effort into the relationship then there must be something wrong with themself (the partner).

By Isolating their partner

Narcissists cannot keep up their facade of perfection forever, so they keep their lovers away from family members who might catch their violent and manipulative actions. Narcissists will persuade their partners to break off these ties to prevent them from leaving. The narcissist may accomplish this by fabricating lies about the partner's loved ones or by advising them to sever ties. By these, they CONTROL their partner.

Make their partner ashamed of themselves

“অপদার্থ”

    Often by cracking joke's narcissists attack others in their weak points to let them down. In response, they calmly say it's just a joke, nothing serious about it. By that time, they make the person feel not worthy enough. Treat them like a child or even sometimes just an object.

So, if you think you're dealing with a narcissist, set boundaries. Proper therapy and consulting a psychologist may help. YOU ARE NOT WRONG. DON'T SUFFER FROM INFERIORITY. 

I still think, will they ever change? What do you think?

By, Sumaiyah Mosabber